Plus the clubs, even in the capital, are disappointing: they shut at 2am, much earlier than venues in Berlin, and just when you start enjoying yourself its lights on. So in a sense yes you are a tad to young to speed date if your goal is to date someone right around your age. 47. So, why are todays youth no longer keen on clubs? If you think a spot sucks there's no reason you have to show up there, unless your friends all want to go, and even then you can make your case for heading somewhere else. Everyone needs a night out, but it doesnt have to be in a club, she says. I was a little bit depressed at the Time i wrote this.. I think, people only do this to forget for a while who they are - so they are not happy with their life. You find yourself complaining that you cant wear flannels there. In my experience bars and clubs offer plenty of reasons to go to them as well. I like going out to places with loud music and having a dance. They plain don't care about some things that other people find aggrevating (e.g., crowded conditions, how everyone is behaving, cover charges, etc.). You can start to see everything you do as work and a means to an end. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns. Youre good. Hi Folks. 5. Its a similar story for Michelle, 24, who says she went out a lot at university but now she prefers chilling at home, and spends her cash on one-off big events such as festivals. You prefer lounging on the couch more than dancing on it. Many teenagers spend money got from their parents - i know from school. Sure, they're not as deep as reading philosophy, but there's no law that says you have to devote all of your time to cerebral, meaningful pursuits. Well you don't have a shitty time while you are there do you? Youre just ahead of your friends. Got stared at by older Chinese couple on the train .. Im female, black, 20 and I got refused from entering an Ensign bus. You no longer consider "club hopping" a legitimate form of exercise. yeah man its perfectly normal. Your body has this violent, convulsing shudder-like reaction when you merely think about taking shots. However, saying that, I have quite a few friends who don't like going out clubbing, but it was never a problem because I see them at other times. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. My life is sooo ******* sad, ask me anything. Heres 20 things youll know if you dont like clubbing. I think you're probably in the majority actually. MadameNoire is a sophisticated lifestyle publication that gives African-American women the latest in fashion trends, The implication is that no one could really like what clubbing has to offer for its own sake. I'm currently working with clients who live in Ontario, Canada: Copyright 2006-2023 SucceedSocially.com. As i read the post, i thought that OP has already made his experiences with clubbing and its not his cup of tea. You're more afraid of wearing your high heels than you are of looking really stupid in flats. Now I mainly just go to festivals. You forgot to take out cash from the ATM. 31. [Blog], Queen's University Belfast A100 2023 Entry, BT Graduate scheme - The student room 2023, Official Oxford 2023 Postgraduate Applicants Thread, How to handle colleague/former friend rejection again. Tried it one time and one time only and that's only because it was for a friend's birthday. However, I think if you have a big chip on your shoulder toward clubs, that mentality can close some doors and pointlessly bring down your mood. That tends to obviously make you act stupider. Being able to meet and chat to strangers is another skill. Get the help you need from a therapist near youa FREE service from Psychology Today. The environment sure makes everyone seem more shallow though: I've mentioned this before, but I'll go into this in more detail as I think it plays a big role in how people can come to be put off bars and clubs. Suddenly it's like you graduated from some kind of clubbing college and now you're the alumnus visiting the Meatpacking District Clubbing Campus and forgot everything you used to do when you went out at the height of your glory days. MadameNoire Copyright 2023 BossipMadameNoire, LLC All Rights Reserved | BHM Digital. Like, what do you expect us to say? A common sentiment about bars and clubs is that they're full of vapid people. The thought of dancing with strangers doesnt excite you anymore it scares you. Here's 20 things you'll know if you don't like clubbing. Yup. Create an account to follow your favorite communities and start taking part in conversations. Im also male, so I have less fear attached to things like that. If you hear Pitbull one more time, you will stab someone with a cocktail stirrer. Yesterday i Went Out and it was Great. If you are an introvert, though, maybe you dont want to spend time with them. Hey, you might even meet some interesting (or attractive!) Youll find other likeminded people who appreciate you for who you are. Its 8:00PM on a Friday night. 48. Bars And Clubs Aren't All Bad. We know. Whats so great about dancing to music you dont know the words to, or paying out extra money for a small shot? For a lot of people, trying to meet someone or get laid often ends in disappointment. You really can't listen to that much Rihanna or Enrique or Swedish House Mafia. The sheer amount of posts I see on this website asking others if it's "okay" not to like something frustrates me to no end. The Guessing Game is when a man from last nightcalls you from the club and youre trying to guess from his voice whether hes really as attractive as you thought he was. When you read the list above, did you catch yourself turning up your nose at any of the points? As you say, it is loud. You usually have more fun at things when you're good at them. Of course it's easier said than done to just have fun in the moment and not care about meeting someone, if getting into a relationship is important to you. They're happy that they overcame their introversion (except that it keeps challenging them). Rather than seeing themselves as a generation stuck staring at phones and not wanting to connect in real life, most of the young people who responded said that clubs were simply not personal enough. 1. These are just things that can make them more enjoyable: When people are new to clubbing they have a tendency to go to sprawling, flashy, stereotypically club-like clubs because they don't know what else is out there. Want to meet people? So many people 'fit in' that it becomes a normal thing. Is it ok that i prefer to go out when its quieter and more chilled. The trade off between a good night out from say 7PM to 7AM is a hangover for a half a day (depending on age) which isn't exactly terrible, especially if you are young and don't get bad ones. Sure it costs money but what else are you going to spend your money on when you are young? Women really only go clubbing to get free drinks and to feed their egos. Maybe I'm just a club rat and that's what I like to do, who am I to judge how people want to spend there time. 43. Well that's a surprising headline. Plenty of people still go clubbing when they're dating someone. In fact, youd rather not do it most weekends at all. I feel like I should is the most common response. Sarah, 30, from Bristol said: Id much rather make a plan and meet up with friends face to face rather than sit in separate rooms and talk over social media. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. 10. As a hermit myself I regret almost every day not taking a more proactive role in my life. Because why do we need to know how many vodka shots youve just had? Like I said in the last point, clubs are demoralizing if you want to meet people but can't, but once you know how a whole new world opens up. Most people hate clubbing, but they do it because it's what's expected of them, because that's what they think their friends like, because 'students get drunk and go clubbing', because it's what they think they have to do to 'fit in'. ", 32. You throw your hands up in the air sometimes and face plant onto your bed saying "A-yo, that was a long day. According to a new study in the UK, the youth are not as eager to go out clubbing like they used to. Does anyone have any advice on this? You just go wherever there seems to be a lot of cute women or hot guys. Like with some of my other articles, the goal isn't to convince you you must take part in a particular activity to do better socially. Here's why clubs lost their appeal and why I doubt I'll go back anytime soon: I feel too old to hang out with most clubkids. There are a number of descriptors that you might assign to the person who feels this way: self-absorbed, narcissistic, boring, unexciting, selfish, above it all, and the list continues. Now there really was no point to going out. One 33-year-old who was surveyed declared: Bouncers are always rude and aggressive with no cause; DJs usually play what they want not what people want to listen to; the drinks are overpriced.". I've triangulated your IP address and the police should be there any moment? It's a theme I sometimes bring up in relation to other topics. You dare not wonder what you would do if you stayed home instead, lest that idea tempt you and make you even later for your plans (or cause you to commit a massive social faux pas and cancel them). If you're a woman you may get groped, harassed, and hit on by creeps. This applies to the usual activities clubbing entails. Yes i have medication for my anxiety but i just dont have any interest in going clubbing, i prefer to sit & have drinksi have one amazing friend and she never pressured me into anything but my other friends r a bit shitty so iv stopped hanging around with them, i dont want to hang around with people who put me in situations i dont like. Those of us that thirst for the dance know where to find it, and it's not at a fucking lounge! People usually dress up when they go out. 55. | They're joking around, being rowdy, and letting off steam. Do not bully or harass other users. You find yourself saying things like, "I'd rather pay for a whole apartment every month than for a table." I've been writing about social skills for fifteen years. For example, someone may think they don't like clubbing because it's superficial and annoying, but they're also uncomfortable in that setting, and a little envious of the people who do well in that world. Maybe youve convinced yourself that you do want to go, but your feet seem a little slow to the door, or you have to just check your email one more time before leaving. 18. PostedApril 12, 2014 In truth, the world of introversion is a confusing and self-condemning one. haha.. Its also a good time to catch up with the things I havent had time to watch or listen to in the week. Bro you're good, I'm the same age, some of my friends enjoy clubbing, others don't and they get I don't. Here are 60 signs youre completely over clubbing. They'll invite, but they're just being nice, they know im not into that stuff, Dude Im 28 Ive never been to a club for the same exact reason. When all the other windows and doors are open. My logic is that most people are alright, and a good proportion of them go to bars and clubs, so if you go to a packed venue, the patrons can't all be empty-headed and irritating. I also have a history of sexual assault so im very wary on drunk men and spiking ect. 24. You can read more responses to the survey here. A club full of drunk people all singing along together at 2AM is a very memorable and enjoyable experience (to the drunkards participating anyway). Well..to me lol, thanks for the reassurance! Why would someone want to go to a bar or club? At age 25, you're older than everyone else. Guys only really go to bars because they want to act macho and get into fights. As you get to my age youll soon realize nobody gives an f about what others around them are doing, just do what makes you happy. 26. Even when I was 18 and went to my first club I didnt feel it. You don't have to go out every night to enjoy clubbing. Clubs too loud? 2. Are you uncool, deviant, a self-made or self-proven outcast? Everybody looks good at 2am on a Saturday. 9. Women really only go clubbing for the attention they get from men. Copyright The Student Room 2023 all rights reserved. Studies suggest young people have fallen out of love with nightclubs. I'm almost thirty thinking scanning my scene this is getting ridiculous here! Because for just $75, you can lose all your friends and then spend the better part of the night finding them. Be polite and respect each other. Its not necessarily what you might think: 98 respondents said that their generation was not less interested in face-to-face meet-ups because of the rise of social media (compared to 33 who said they were again, not everyone responded to this question). 21. You like to dance. Were all working and busy so dont get to do the catch up stuff during the week., There was a small majority who found the clubbing scene simply too stressful. 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